A Great Gardner’s Book As Always

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The Book Review of 
Look For Me” by Lisa Gardner


I always learn something from reading Gardner’s books. It is apparent from her works that she conducts a great deal of research in forensic science and legal procedures, filters through a large amount of informative details and weaves the most interesting parts into her plot lines. I was initially drawn to her books by her characterization of strong, determined and resourceful female leads. As my reading journey continued, I found her books also opened a gateway of knowledge into a line of work I barely knew in real life. She introduced me to the life of a child psych ward nurse, a 911 dispatcher, a police trooper and even a female prisoner. The last, I know, is not a profession, but no less interesting to read about.

There are two recurring themes in Gardner’s writing: troubled childhood and trauma recovery.

Gardner on Child Welfare

In her D.D. Warren series, Gardner directs a spotlight at troubled children, calling attention to this particularly vulnerable group. This book “Look for Me” tells a story of foster kids, and severals other books in the same series also revolve around children born with or into difficult situations, such as children with physical disabilities (“Fear Nothing”), children with mental illnesses (“Live To Tell”), children of narcissistic parents (“Never Tell”) and children sexually abused by pedophilic predators (“Catch Me”).

Gardner’s thrillers are not only exciting reads, but also offer a kaleidoscopic view into various public facilities and services. The crime plots may be fictitious, but the story setting is built on solid research. Schools, hospitals, law enforcement, government agencies, social volunteer groups —— there seems to be no corner of the society that Gardner’s antenna have not reached, investigated and reported.

Reading her books, you can see the tremendous efforts put forth by all the honorable people in our society to protect the younger generation from perils, to nurture deprived children with public resources, to reconnect challenged children, and sometimes their desperate parents, into a social support network. But at the same time, you also see the devil of human nature rearing its ugly head in the depravity of abusive parents, pedophilic criminals and callous bystanders.

All adults were once children. When children grow up, they gain power. Some of them wield this power to protect and guard the younger generation, whereas some pour their anger and frustration onto the defenseless young, and some exploit the curiosity and dependency of children to act out their depraved fantasies. Generations after generations, the war between child protectors and child abusers goes on and children’s welfare depends on the adults on their side winning the war.

A central character of this book is a high school teenage girl who spent several years in foster care, and as the story unfolds, it touches on various aspects and working stages of the US foster care system. Foster kids usually have problematic biological parents, whose custodial rights are terminated by the state on the account of negligence or abuse. Only after the biological parents prove in court that they are mentally, physically and financially stable enough to provide responsible child care, could they win back the custody of their kids. Before that, the children would be placed in foster homes for the sake of their safety and welfare.

However, when put into practice, these laws and policies to protect children may not live up to same ideal by which they were drafted. If the foster home lacks monitoring and supervision, these children, already under distress, become even more susceptible to exploitation and abuse. During the challenging times of parent-child separation, if the foster home fails to provide solace and support, some of children would break down or go astray. Feeling undeserved and unloved, they use drugs, alcohol, unprotected sex to sabotage their physical and mental well-being. Feeling lost in a hostile, estranged world, they join criminal activities to find a sense of community and belonging.

Gardner on Feminism

Another thing I always like about Gardner’s books is how she features strong female characters. In this book, Flora Dane, an abduction survivor (first introduced in “Find Her ”), trains herself to be a vigilante and organizes a support group to offer consultation for other victims. Sara, another survivor from a killing spree, joins Flora’s support group and uses her computer knowledge to help locate a missing girl.

It’s really refreshing to read stories of how female survivors of rape, kidnap and violence regain the control of their life and start to feel strong and powerful again. The survivors study self-defense skills from lock-picking to chemical burning, take on training courses in shooting, kick-boxing and running, bond with other determined survivors, and together form a formidable combat force to destroy the bad guys.

I always like the stories of victims turning into revengers. In a world where all women face constant threats of male violence, these stories tell women that they are not passive and powerless. The stories say that for those who are disgraced, tortured and brutalized, there is a way out of victimhood, and it is not by waiting, begging and praying. Her inner peace is not gifted to her by an omnipotent God, neither does it come back to her spontaneously as time goes by. To reclaim her control of life, she has to believe in her own strength and shrewdness. She has to plan, prepare, strategize, and take revenge on the offenders, rapists and kidnappers. She has to rack her brain to outsmart those who wronged her and hold on to a determination to fight till winning.

Is This Harassing, Flirting or Joking?

Thoughts on
天久鷹央の事件カルテ”, by 知念実希人


破案情节一如既往地有趣,但是里面用职场性骚扰的桥段来搞笑,实在让人受不了。作者以为把骚扰者设定成女,被骚扰者设定成男,就可以消解性骚扰的恶劣性了,其实完全不是这样。不论谁骚扰谁,如果允许毫无顾忌地骚扰别人这种行为存在,整个工作场所的气氛都会变得特别有毒。

之所以女骚扰男能被玩笑化,是由于存在着一种社会观念,认为男性被女性“骚扰”其实是占了便宜,于是骚扰方占了口舌便宜,被骚扰方占了“性”的便宜,谁都没有吃亏。但是职场上女骚扰男的性质和男骚扰女一样恶劣,一样会毒害工作环境。

以开玩笑打掩护侵犯他人边界的行为一但成为常态,会让所有员工内心都感到不安。每个人表面上在别人被侵犯时附和着一起笑,但内心也时刻担忧着自己被侵犯,这样导致的猜疑和恐惧本身就会割裂团队。而且,幻想实际中几乎不存在的,女上司骚扰男下属、女同事骚扰男同事的情节,把性骚扰的行为正常化,扩大化,最后只会侵犯到本就最容易被性骚扰伤害的群体,也就是底层女性员工。

我刚入职时,不懂得工作场合说话做事的边界,也说过类似于“骚扰”的话,后来接受了公司的防止性骚扰课程培训,才意识到自己过去的言行不当,以后也变得注意起来了。规范自己的言行,创造一个清朗的工作环境,最终获益的还是自己。


The crime-solving plot is interesting as always, but it is disturbing to read the author’s frivolous treatment of workplace sexual harassment. Sexual harassment at workplace is a serious issue that should not be taken lightly. It not only violates people’s physical and emotional boundaries and tramples upon the dignity of co-workers, but also poisons the social atmosphere at the workplace and destroys team spirit.

The reason that the author deems it a moral obligation to condemn male-to-female sexual harassment (as he did in the other books of this series and I appreciate that), while finding female-to-male sexual harassment funny enough to joke about, is that he, as many people do, has this intuitive feel that the former is unfair, unjust, an absolute abuse of power by people in advantageous positions, while the latter is much less so. Less so, because in the latter case, the inequality of power in employment, is counter-balanced by the inequality of power by gender.

The gender relationship as we understand it, and our understanding mostly reflects reality, is that any sexual or sexually-alluding interaction between women and men would create an imbalance of power that puts men in dominant positions and women in subordinate positions. This idea leads to another belief that when a man is sexually harassed by a woman, the victim is not a true victim. Although the encroachment on his boundaries makes him feel uncomfortable, he gains from the contact initiated by the harasser, since men could always benefit from sexual contact or contact that suggests the prospect of sex, with women.

The author hints towards a belief in his book that by making the target of harassment a male, workplace sexual harassment can be perceived as less toxic and less harmful, but in fact it is not like that at all. Firstly, every individual has the need to preserve their boundaries and have their feelings recognized and respected. When workplace sexual harassment becomes the norm, it would upset all employees. Although most of them would feel pressured to comply, even trying to force out a laugh at the scene of another co-worker being harassed, deep inside everyone watching harassers go free would inevitably feel the anxiety of being targeted next. This feeling of insecurity and distrust will create fissures in the team and impair the morale and productivity of employees. Secondly, the fantasy of female bosses harassing male subordinates, female colleagues harassing male peers, which almost never exists in reality, while attempting to paint female-to-male sexual harassment as a case of flirting, and thereby justifies normalization, will have the ripple effect of normalizing all cases of sexual harassment. And we all know the victims of real-world sexual harassment are predominantly low-level female workers.

When I started my first job, I tried to leave a good impression on my co-workers and did not quite understand there is a fine line between showing care and respecting boundaries. I committed a number of micro-aggressions without realizing my mistakes. It was only after several company training courses on anti sexual harassment that it was called to my awareness all my micro-aggressions in workplace that would feel improper and unprofessional to other co-workers. Like once I commented on the look of one co-worker in front of several people. Even though that was a praise, I still regretted that as an unprofessional mistake since that comment could be easily misunderstood and mis-received. Now I pay particular attention to make sure I communicate professionally with my colleagues and that has led me to trust my co-workers more, not less. Contributing to a harassment-free working environment eventually benefits myself.